Taking Responsibility for Your Own Happiness

You know in life you have a few choices that you are faced with every time you encounter something or someone you don't like. You can tolerate the thing or person that you don't like or do something about it.

If you chose the first course of action you are only enabling the situation or person that is bringing disruption to your life to continue. We all have things happen that we don't like. We all encounter people that we don't care to be around for whatever reason. If you tolerate things then you will not be any happier nor will your life be any better. For example I tolerated a boss that yelled at me weekly for no valid reason simply because she felt pissy that day and knew I'd take it. I tolerated that for a long time TOOO long. I'd come home and complain about it. Did I do anything to change that? No... did I find another job? No... did I stand up to her? Well after 5 years I finally did but for a long time no... I was miserable. And it was my own fault. Now do you want your life to be full of decisions like that or do you want to have control of your life?
I for one am not going to allow myself to be a 'victim' nor wallow in self pity nor any of that negativity that does nothing to change the situation. I've been there done that. It solves nothing. Absolutely nothing is solved by whining and moaning about something. All it does is makes you miserable focusing on it so much and perhaps annoys those around you that hear about it day in and day out.
If you chose the second option of taking action, then you are in control of your life and you are on the road to being truly happy. If you don't like a situation you're in change it. End it. Move on. Change yourself. Something. But to take action you don't whine and moan about it you just take it and then change the situation. If you don't like someone that you have to deal with change that. Avoid dealing with them. Now there are some situations where you can't avoid people. There will most likely always be a person in a work environment that you don't see eye to eye with but you can take control of that situation.
If you're not happy, then figure out what will make you happy and do it. Don't talk about doing it. Do it! Just like the Nike commercial. Just do it! If you want to lose weight, get to the gym, eat healthier and more often, but don't sit at home whining and moaning and wallowing in self pity when you have the power to change that situation. If the people around you are not treating you nicely then put a wall up to them and refuse to let them phase you. If someone says something mean to you, let it roll off your back and not phase you.
You can not control what anyone else does but YOU control how you react and what actions you take in every situation you are faced with. Crying to someone about your problems isn't going to make them go away. Granted friends can be comforting to us at times when we're upset but thinking they can solve your problem is never going to make you happy cause they can't. Only you can make you happy. Only you can change your situation.
If you feel like the world is against you and like taking your own life. Go get help. Talk to a counselor. Seek medication to help you handle things better while you go to counseling. Take charge of your self. Take responsibility for your feelings and actions.
The best thing I have ever done for myself was going to the doctor and saying hey I need some antidepressent medication. I stopped letting myself be a victim and took control of my life. Since doing that I find that I handle things so much better than I ever did before. If you don't like something in your life change it.
If you want to have things and don't have the money to buy them, then get out and work. If you wish you had friends or more friends then get out and meet people. If there are things you've always wanted to do or been procrastinating about doing just get up and do them.

LostAngelLiz